Sometimes I find a quote and it triggers something and other times, like today I went looking for a quote.
I wasn’t too sure about this one, because is an obstacle that you set for yourself really an obstacle or is it self-sabotage?
Anyway, I was thinking about obstacles and how we can overcome them. And how some people will give up at the first obstacle they face.
You actually can’t win with some people, they will find a problem for every solution, but generally, people do want to move on and improve their lives.
The problem is though, that you don’t know what you don’t know. Things change all the time. Think back to the 1940’s and 1950’s – “get a good job” was the most important thing. Unless you were a woman, then it was “get a good husband”.
So people stuck it out in those jobs – or moved to slightly better jobs – because that is what they were told to do, it was all they knew. The lucky ones worked for places that had a pension fund so that they had something when they stopped working.
The next mantra was “finish school” – then “get a qualification” – by now we have moved on so that women were also included.
No one was taught to have a good attitude and how that attitude can change things around you and your life. Work hard, be polite, don’t steal … but not have a good attitude. The word attitude can be replaced with mindset.
I’m not so crazy about “positive thinking” – you can’t just think about something and it happens, else I would be writing this from my house along the Cape coast.
But anyone can have a good attitude. It doesn’t cost anything and you can develop it. It becomes a habit and having a good attitude will go a long way to overcoming so many obstacles.
Anyway back to the obstacle part. Think about obstacles like our potholes. Joburg people are very familiar with them (Cape Town, that’s when the roads aren’t maintained and eventually you end up with a crater and damage to your car).
If you regularly drive the same road, you get to know where the potholes are and you avoid them – a little to the right, never mind the driver from the oncoming lane who thought you were going to hit him, a little to the left or maybe you even change your route.
Point is, you have to become aware of the obstacle/pothole/problem. Then you can take corrective action. Being upset about the problem won’t change it, cursing the pothole is not going to fill it. But if you are aware and looking out for them and are ready to take evasive action, you have to agree that is a lot easier than riding through life being angry.
The other thing is that if you can make a good attitude a habit, you start being able to find solutions – whether it is over, under or around.
What if you don’t know how to overcome a problem? TALK to someone! Anyone will do – unless you need a kick in the pants, then don’t go to someone who will pat you on the back and go there, there…
When you talk to someone, there are two of you listening. You hear your own words which is why sometimes the person talking comes up with their own solution just by hearing it aloud.
Don’t talk to a negative person! They will suck the life out of you. That would be like taking a lifejacket off and then jumping into the middle of the ocean.
I truly believe that there is a lot more good in people than they realise and that they can be far more than they are… it starts with attitude. Change that and you are on your way.
Until next time, may your obstacles be overcome.