“Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”
Albert Camus 1913 – 1960, French Author
There is normally no shortage of friends when you want to have a good time and things are going well. But when things turn, as they invariably at some time for whatever reason do, that is when you need your friends the most.
The old saying of finding out then who your friends are is very true. But it works both ways. Are you around when your friends are having a hard time? I must be honest, I have loads of acquaintances but not that many friends and I tend to arrange my life – as I do my Facebook – accordingly; Family, Friends, Acquaintances.
Don’t get me wrong, if I can help an acquaintance I will, heck, I even go out my way to help a stranger! But for my friends, I would do anything. The problem with my friends though – and see if you recognise this in yourself – is no one ever wants to let on that they are having a tough time. It’s like we have been conditioned to be tough, bottle it all in, never let anyone see you are “normal”.
This is not an invitation for you to collapse in a crying heap – just a suggestion that sometimes you should go to a friend when you need an ear and maybe even a shoulder and let them be there for you.
Likewise, keep an eye on your friends, look out for the tell-tale signs that they need you – and be there for them. You don’t have to have all the answers, just be there.
To my friends and family (that are as good as friends) – thank you for walking beside me … and just being my friend.