“An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.”
Mahatma Gandhi 1869 – 1948, Indian Political and Spiritual Leader
I suppose when someone inflicts injury of some sort on us it is human nature to want to retaliate and sometimes restraint has to be exercised.
It also seems that the people who deserve punishing or justice the most are the ones that get away with it for the longest. Taking the high road can be lonely sometimes but look on the bright side, there’s less traffic there.
It is also pointless hanging onto a grudge and harbouring resentment. That bitterness just eats away at your soul. I can still remember the feeling when I finally let go (note, I still cannot say forgive) of my bitterness and anger towards Stepmommy Not Dearest. A friend of mine kept on telling me that the wheel will turn – I haven’t heard of it turning and I would not be sad to hear that it had, but I cannot live my life harbouring negative feelings toward her. She would be totally unaware of it, but it would have a bad effect on me.
I did hear a story of a wheel turning last week. I don’t want to go into details as it involves an ex-client and I have a confidentiality clause that I protect fiercely. The short story is they unceremoniously dumped me. Someone in my inner circle took them to a family member who also has an accounting practice. Well, four years later, the client has been done over by the person they left me for. They have no records and apparently their work wasn’t submitted.
You know what my first reaction when I heard this was? Oh good! My second reaction, how can I help them? My final reaction when I thought about it? Tough, they made a decision at the time and now they have to deal with the consequences. As we all must do.
It feels at times that the whole world is going crazy, doing awful things and behaving so badly but it doesn’t mean we have to join in. That doesn’t mean we have to be everyone’s doormat. Someone does something to you that is unacceptable, move on. They did it once; chances are they are going to do it again. I like the saying; “Do something to me once, shame on you. Do something to me twice, shame on me.”
So until tomorrow, keep your eyes on something good.